TED演讲:长大后你想成为什么样的人
我们一定都曾被问过“长大后你想成什么样的人?”这个问题被我们的家长、老师、亲友长辈问过无数次，在我们成长中可谓如影随形。下面是中国人才网提供的TED演讲:长大后你想成为什么样的人，供参考借鉴!
【ted演讲：你希望未来成为什么的人】
Raise your hand if you've ever been asked the question "What do you want to be when yougrow up?"
Now if you had to guess, how old would you say you were when you were first asked thisquestion?You can just hold up fingers. Three. Five. Three. Five. Five. OK. Now, raise yourhand if the question"What do you want to be when you grow up?" has ever caused you anyanxiety.
Any anxiety at all.
I'm someone who's never been able to answer the question "What do you want to be when yougrow up?"
See, the problem wasn't that I didn't have any interests -- it's that I had too many. In high school,I liked English and math and art and I built websites and I played guitar in a punk band calledFrustrated Telephone Operator. Maybe you've heard of us.
This continued after high school, and at a certain point, I began to notice this pattern inmyself where I would become interested in an area and I would dive in, become all-consumed, and I'd get to be pretty good at whatever it was, and then I would hit this point whereI'd start to get bored. And usually I would try and persist anyway, because I had already devotedso much time and energy and sometimes money into this field. But eventually this sense ofboredom, this feeling of, like, yeah, I got this, this isn't challenging anymore -- it would get to betoo much. And I would have to let it go.
But then I would become interested in something else, something totally unrelated, and I woulddive into that, and become all-consumed, and I'd be like, "Yes! I found my thing," and then Iwould hit this point again where I'd start to get bored. And eventually, I would let it go. But then Iwould discover something new and totally different, and I would dive into that.
This pattern caused me a lot of anxiety, for two reasons. The first was that I wasn't sure how Iwas going to turn any of this into a career. I thought that I would eventually have to pick onething, deny all of my other passions, and just resign myself to being bored. The other reason itcaused me so much anxiety was a little bit more personal. I worried that there was somethingwrong with this, and something wrong with me for being unable to stick with anything. I worriedthat I was afraid of commitment, or that I was scattered, or that I was self-sabotaging, afraid ofmy own success.
If you can relate to my story and to these feelings, I'd like you to ask yourself a question that Iwish I had asked myself back then. Ask yourself where you learned to assign the meaning ofwrong or abnormal to doing many things. I'll tell you where you learned it: you learned it fromthe culture.
We are first asked the question "What do you want to be when you grow up?" when we're aboutfive years old. And the truth is that no one really cares what you say when you're that age.
It's considered an innocuous question, posed to little kids to elicit cute replies, like, "I want to bean astronaut," or "I want to be a ballerina," or "I want to be a pirate." Insert Halloween costumehere.
But this question gets asked of us again and again as we get older in various forms -- forinstance, high school students might get asked what major they're going to pick in college. Andat some point, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" goes from being the cute exerciseit once was to the thing that keeps us up at night. Why?
See, while this question inspires kids to dream about what they could be, it does not inspirethem to dream about all that they could be. In fact, it does just the opposite, because whensomeone asks you what you want to be, you can't reply with 20 different things, though well-meaning adults will likely chuckle and be like, "Oh, how cute, but you can't be a violin maker anda psychologist. You have to choose."
This is Dr. Bob Childs --
and he's a luthier and psychotherapist. And this is Amy Ng, a magazine editor turned illustrator,entrepreneur, teacher and creative director. But most kids don't hear about people like this. Allthey hear is that they're going to have to choose. But it's more than that. The notion of thenarrowly focused life is highly romanticized in our culture. It's this idea of destiny or the one truecalling, the idea that we each have one great thing we are meant to do during our time on thisearth, and you need to figure out what that thing is and devote your life to it.
But what if you're someone who isn't wired this way? What if there are a lot of different subjectsthat you're curious about, and many different things you want to do? Well, there is no room forsomeone like you in this framework. And so you might feel alone. You might feel like you don'thave a purpose. And you might feel like there's something wrong with you. There's nothingwrong with you. What you are is a multipotentialite.
A multipotentialite is someone with many interests and creative pursuits. It's a mouthful to say. Itmight help if you break it up into three parts: multi, potential, and ite. You can also use one ofthe other terms that connote the same idea, such as polymath, the Renaissanceperson. Actually, during the Renaissance period, it was considered the ideal to be well-versedin multiple disciplines. Barbara Sher refers to us as "scanners." Use whichever term you like, orinvent your own. I have to say I find it sort of fitting that as a community, we cannot agree on asingle identity.
It's easy to see your multipotentiality as a limitation or an affliction that you need toovercome. But what I've learned through speaking with people and writing about these ideas onmy website, is that there are some tremendous strengths to being this way. Here arethree multipotentialite super powers.
One: idea synthesis. That is, combining two or more fields and creating something new at theintersection. Sha Hwang and Rachel Binx drew from their shared interests in cartography, datavisualization, travel, mathematics and design, when they founded Meshu. Meshu is a companythat creates custom geographically-inspired jewelry. Sha and Rachel came up with this uniqueidea not despite, but because of their eclectic mix of skills and experiences. Innovation happensat the intersections. That's where the new ideas come from. And multipotentialites, with all oftheir backgrounds, are able to access a lot of these points of intersection.
The second multipotentialite superpower is rapid learning. When multipotentialites becomeinterested in something, we go hard. We observe everything we can get our hands on. We'realso used to being beginners, because we've been beginners so many times in the past, andthis means that we're less afraid of trying new things and stepping out of our comfortzones. What's more, many skills are transferable across disciplines, and we bring everythingwe've learned to every new area we pursue,so we're rarely starting from scratch.
Nora Dunn is a full-time traveler and freelance writer. As a child concert pianist, she honed anincredible ability to develop muscle memory. Now, she's the fastest typist she knows.
08:48Before becoming a writer, Nora was a financial planner. She had to learn the finer mechanics ofsaleswhen she was starting her practice, and this skill now helps her write compelling pitches toeditors. It is rarely a waste of time to pursue something you're drawn to, even if you end upquitting. You might apply that knowledge in a different field entirely, in a way that you couldn'thave anticipated.
The third multipotentialite superpower is adaptability; that is, the ability to morph into whateveryou need to be in a given situation. Abe Cajudo is sometimes a video director, sometimes a webdesigner,sometimes a Kickstarter consultant, sometimes a teacher, and sometimes, apparently,James Bond.
He's valuable because he does good work. He's even more valuable because he can take onvarious roles, depending on his clients' needs. Fast Company magazine identifiedadaptability as the single most important skill to develop in order to thrive in the 21stcentury. The economic world is changing so quickly and unpredictably that it is the individualsand organizations that can pivot in order to meet the needs of the market that are really goingto thrive.
Idea synthesis, rapid learning and adaptability: three skills that multipotentialites are very adeptat, and three skills that they might lose if pressured to narrow their focus. As a society, we havea vested interest in encouraging multipotentialites to be themselves. We have a lot of complex,multidimensional problems in the world right now, and we need creative, out-of-the-box thinkersto tackle them.
Now, let's say that you are, in your heart, a specialist. You came out of the womb knowing youwanted to be a pediatric neurosurgeon. Don't worry -- there's nothing wrong with you, either.
In fact, some of the best teams are comprised of a specialist and multipotentialite pairedtogether. The specialist can dive in deep and implement ideas, while the multipotentialite bringsa breadth of knowledge to the project. It's a beautiful partnership. But we should all bedesigning lives and careersthat are aligned with how we're wired. And sadly, multipotentialitesare largely being encouraged simply to be more like their specialist peers.
So with that said, if there is one thing you take away from this talk, I hope that it is this: embraceyour inner wiring, whatever that may be. If you're a specialist at heart, then by all means,specialize. That is where you'll do your best work. But to the multipotentialites in theroom, including those of you who may have just realized in the last 12 minutes that you are one--
to you I say: embrace your many passions. Follow your curiosity down those rabbitholes. Explore your intersections. Embracing our inner wiring leads to a happier, more authenticlife. And perhaps more importantly -- multipotentialites, the world needs us.
Thank you.
附中文：“长大后你想成为什么样的人?”
我们一定对这个问题耳熟能详，不仅在于我们经常做这个问题的提问者，更是从小到大回答了无数遍。然而对于部分人，这个问题却会让他们无从回答，因为，与其说这个问题在于帮助他们明确人生规划，倒不如说是在为他们未来的无限可能设限。
对于拥有多种兴趣爱好且无法做出职业抉择的人来说，这种太过广泛的对事物的热情能否实现人生价值?无法对一种事物投入终生的热忱是否意味着不够坚定?
在Emilie Wapnick的这期TED演讲中，希望我们能解决这些困惑。
讲师：Emilie Wapnick
我是从未正确回答过这个问题的，“你长大想成为什么人?”麻烦不在于我没有任何爱好，而是我有太多爱好。高中的时候，我喜欢英语、数学、艺术，我建了网站，在一个叫“失意电话接线员”的朋克乐队当吉他手，也许你听说过我们。
高中之后，我依然如此。在某个时间，我开始意识到我身上的这种模式：开始对某个领域感兴趣，全力以赴，沉浸其中，无论这是哪个领域，我都能变得挺擅长，然后，我就会开始感到无聊。通常情况下，我还是会继续尝试和坚持，因为我已经在这个领域投入了如此多的时间与精力，有时还包括金钱。然而，最终这种无聊的感觉，有点像“耶，我做到了，这不再是个挑战了!”这种感觉越来越强烈，最终，我不得不放手。
然而，接下来我会开始对其他东西感兴趣，一些和之前毫不相关的东西，我再次全力以赴，沉浸其中，这种状态就是像“是的，我找到真爱了!”然后，我再次开始感到无聊。最终，我又会放手。但接着，我又发现一些与之前截然不同的新事物，再次沉浸其中。这种模式让我变得非常焦虑，原因有两个，首先我不确定，我可以在多大程度上将其中的任何一种变成我的职业。我以为，最终我必须选择其中一种，否认我花在其他选项上的所有热情，以此避免再次感到无聊的可能。另一个原因是更加个人的，我担心，这种模式是否意味着，我不能坚持做一件事，这是个问题。我苦恼于我可能害怕承诺，我容易分心，或者具有自我破坏倾向，害怕自己成功。
如果你在我的故事中找到共鸣，心有戚戚焉，我希望你能问自己一个问题，一个我希望在那个时候能问自己的问题。问问自己，你从什么地方学到做很多不一样的事情是错误和反常的?
我来告诉你是从哪里学到的，是从文化中学到的。
当我们第一次被问到“你长大后想成为什么样的人?”那时我们大概五岁左右。真相是，在你那么大的时候，没有人真正在乎你的答案。在提问者看来，这是个无伤大雅的问题，为了引出小孩子们天真的回答而抛给他们，就像“我想当宇航员”或者“我想当芭蕾舞演员”或者“我想当海盗”。然而这个问题在我们长大的过程中一次又一次地被问起，以各种花样。例如，高中学生们可能被这样提问，“你打算在大学里读什么专业?”答案从最开始的'童言无忌到令我们整夜失眠。
为什么?
因为，这个问题鼓励着孩子去梦想他们的未来，但却无法鼓舞他们去梦想未来的所有可能。
事实上，它的效果正相反，当有人问你想做什么时，你不能回答说有20种不同的事情。虽然善意的成年人可能在轻声笑，然后说，“噢，你真可爱，但你不能同时是琴匠和心理学家，你必须选择。”这是Bob博士的孩子——
他是一位制琴师与心理治疗师。
这是Amy Ng，从杂志编辑转行成为插画家、企业家、教师以及创意总监。
然而大多数孩子没有听说过这样的人，他们听到的，是他们必须做出选择。事情还不仅仅如此。这种狭隘的生活观念在我们的文化中被高度美化了。正是这种被称之为命运或者响应内心真实召唤的观念——我们每个人都有一桩伟大的事业，我们预备需用一生的时间投入其中，你需要弄清楚它是什么，然后将你的生命奉献于此。但倘若你的命运并非如此呢?倘若你对很多不同课题都感到好奇，而且想做很多不同的事情呢?好了，目前在这样的社会体系中，没有空间容纳像你这样的人。你可能会觉得孤独，觉得迷茫，没有目标。反思自己是不是不正常呀。
你很正常，你其实是一名“多相潜能者”。一名多相潜能者拥有许多爱好与创意追求。你身上的多相潜能特质很容易被视为是一个缺陷，或者是你需要克服的障碍。然而我在与人交谈中学到的，以及在我的网站上写到的，就是成为一名多相潜能者具有一些巨大的优势，这里有三个例子：
一、跨界整合
也就是整合两个或多个领域，在交叉地带创造全新的事物。
Sha Hwang与Rachel Binx被对方相同的兴趣所吸引，制图、数据可视化、旅游、数学和设计，之后他们创立了Meshu，一个生产定制具有地域风格饰品的公司。在这个独特创意的产生过程中，Sha Hwang与Rachel Binx将他们的技能与经验进行了广泛组合，而不是将不同排除。创新就产生在这样的交叉领域。新的概念也由此而来。而多相潜能者，他们的全部背景，能够激发出大量的创新交叉点。
二、快速学习
当多相潜能者对某种东西感兴趣，他们会非常努力，会学习能拿到手的一切相关材料。我们也习惯于当一名初学者，因为在过去的时间里我们一次次地充当初学者的角色，这意味着我们更勇于尝试新事物以及跨出我们所谓的舒适区。此外，很多技能通过跨学科互相转化，我们带着所学到的一切去往每一个所追求的全新领域，所以其实我们是很少从头开始的。
Nora Dunn是一位全职的旅行家与自由撰稿人。在成为撰稿人之前，Nora是一位理财规划师。她必须学会销售的精打细算，在她开始学习写作时，这项技能帮助她向编写者提交非常有吸引力的文案。所以，当你去追去那些吸引你的事物时，时间很少会被浪费，即使你最后退出，你可能会在另一个截然不同的领域去应用之前所学，以一种连你自己都意想不到的方式。
三、适应力
适应力是转变为任何你需要成为的角色的能力。
在一个特定情境中，Abe Cajudo在一些时候是视频编导，一些时候是网站设计师，一些时候是Kickstarter网站的咨询师，一些时候是教师，很显然地，还有一些时候是詹姆斯·邦德(玩笑)。他是可贵的，因为他工作出色，更可贵的是，他可以玩转多重角色。世界经济的变化如此迅速而不可预知，以致于只有那些能够适应市场需求的个人与组织才能够真正地存活下来。
跨界整合能力、快速学习能力与适应能力，三项多相潜能者擅长的技能，如果被迫将眼光收窄，他们就可能失去这些技能。对社会而言，我们的既得利益要去鼓励多相潜能者做自己，在这个世界，如今我们有很多复杂的、多维度的问题，我们需要创造性的、打破常规的思想者们来处理这些问题。
我们所有人都理应设计一种与我们的天性相联系的生活与职业生涯。但令人遗憾的是，大多时候，多相潜能者常被劝说成为专家的样子。
所以，如上所言，如果你要从这场讲座中带走一样事物，我希望是这个：拥抱你的内在天性，无论那是什么。
如果你内心告诉自己你是一名专家，那就不顾一切，把自己变得专业，在专家的位置你会做得更好。而对于在场的多相潜能者来说，包括那些可能是刚刚意识到自己是多相潜能者的人，对你，我想说：拥抱你的多样热情，跟随你的好奇心，寻找那些“兔子洞”，探索你的交叉领域，拥抱你的内在天性，追随一种更快乐、更真实的人生。
或许最重要的——多相潜能者，世界需要我们。
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